Self-care day
I choose to take care of myself today.
I have a few roles in my life, I am a mother, a wife, I teach yoga in 3 studios, coach women, and I am a Director in a Medical Device start up… Saying that my life is not boring is an euphemism … I created it to be filled with the things that energise me though. Everyone of those roles fullfills me and brings me something the others do not.
I used to pride myself for being busy, to link my value on how much how was acomplishing in a day, and to feel guilty when I was not productive. In a society that values achievement, work, business, it is a miracle not to be programmed that way. Overtime, I have unlearned this habit of the mind and now I am enjoying the space of slowing down.
My Fridays have been my full-time mother days, where I have been taking care of my little one, ever since I started working again when he was 1 and I chose to keep that day off. I have always cherished it. I have never taken a “day off” that mother role. But today, I listened to my body, her whispers, her sights… and my husband took over, he took the day off, to welcome and enjoy his full-time dad role today.
The world is heavy right now. Extended lockdowns, family separated, judgments, pressure, name calling, inability to listen, to understand each others, anger, frustration, fatigue…
I often take on the collective energy and I have to be vigilant and make sure I don’t carry too much of it. I just felt tired. I also put a lot of focus on my different businesses in the last weeks and a couple nights of interrupted sleep with my little one waking us up…
Exhaustion!
So I listened to her. My body. She held space for a lot of people in the past weeks, kids, students, clients, work, dog…! She need to be held and nourished. I went to a Yin yoga class, slow, beautiful, no work out, no goal to sweat or achieve anything, just being here and now. My mind was racing at the start with things to do and other random stuff, but managed to slow down and relax especially as my mind focused on the teacher’s beautiful voice as he chanted and played the guitar at the end of class. I then went one to see my leased horse Duchess. Being with her is definitely the place I found the most peace. And usually, we work out, we canter, we jump, we hold the right posture, we non verbally communicate and argue, eventually come to a place of agreement and always enjoy all of this. Today we just went for a trail ride, walking, slow, enjoying each other company. A breath of air. I came home and took a bath. I don’t remember last time I took a bath.
A new woman!
My mom’s duties were on after that, and I was happy to see my 2 energetic boys singing rock and roll. Loud. It did not matter. I was in a centered space. A place of self-love. Where I could give them love and sing rock and roll with them!
Let’s not underestimate the power and value of self-care, of slowing down. Especially now. I am an introvert and I rejuvenate by myself, and maybe you are an extrovert and rejuvenate by seeing or having a chat with friends (if you can’t see them right now). Nature is for most people a place of rejuvenation, so maybe today, you can put your bare feet in the grass and look at the sky. Breathe. Even for 5 minutes. If that is all you feel you can give yourself. This will make a difference.
If you need a friendly ear to listen, to hold space for you, a non-judgemental space. As a friend, as a coach. Whatever you need. Contact me. Don’t hesitate. I have no judgement for you whatever choice you are making in your life right now. We need to listen to each other with love.
Take care of yourself. The world needs it.
Love and gratitude to all humans.
Dorothee Marossero Msc MBA is a transformational coach, creator of Fearlessly Yourself and Dottyoga. She uses Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Yoga, mindfulness, somatic and self-care approaches to bring sustainable and deep transformation to women around the world.
